Monday, October 02, 2006

my dad is a good parent

my dad is a very good parent., but before that how does one defines good parent or bad ? in my point of view, it's simple. But before i debate on my point of view, i wanna let you guys know how my dad is like.

he is nice, opens a chicken rice stall. wife died 7yrs ago. Wife is my mum-breast cancer. Been trying very hard to raise us , i have 3 younger sisters staying in a hostel. Alot of times he had run into troubles with money but he manage to get through it with the grace of god.
At that point in time, my mum owned money due to the company she was in . It was doing well when she was ard than all of the sudden her death caused alot of uncertainties. He could have just ran away like some other men did. I've seen alot of such cases in boys town and i'm glad my father is not one of them. I'm so damn glad.

now, he always are gentle to us. And whatever we wanted, he would try to give it to us. But of course it's not as though we asked for things everytime we got home. he would try and get it for us. if not he would gently tell us that he can't afford it or we have no need for it. He doesn't give me the feeling that he wants to have control over us. Nor does he gives me the feeling that he is authoritative, egoistic. When he voices out something, sometimes i have something to say or i have something to oppose, he'd just listen and take it as it is. he does not hold any offence it any of my words. and that is something i like. this means i can voice out anything i want without him feeling offended .

the only time where he disappointed me was when he went drunk at home and we had to send him to the hospital, other than that.. i dun see any reasons why shouldn't he be labelled as a good parent. Education wise, he is not literate, so he passed on the role to the goverment and to the hostels that we're allocated in.

so, not all parents are controlling. some give too much space and guess what.. the next min you see them in boys home, than next in the prison... Singaporeans, think bout it..

Posted by dear benji at 10:36 PM